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We should always take our pain to the Lord.

Have you ever seen a person who had so much pain in their heart that they were grasping for whatever help they could find and they said some things they shouldn’t have? They just wanted the pain to stop.

More than likely, the people who love them understood and tried to help them. They knew how that kind of pain can dull a person’s ability to make rational and appropriate choices and words. They knew this wasn’t a reflection of a hard heart; this was a reflection of a hurting heart.

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Later, when the pain lessened from the passage of time or the situation that caused it was resolved, it should have been better but it wasn’t, because not everyone loved the person in pain and not everyone understood. Some people judged and held resentment, spread gossip, and blamed the very person who was hurting in the first place.

What is the answer is in this situation?

Is it to be distrustful even of those who seem to care? Should we lock ourselves in a closet when we are distraught so we won’t say anything that is inappropriate or others can’t handle? What happens when the after-effects of this weakness seem to linger far longer than the unfortunate event that caused them, even after the necessary amends have been made, and the person now sees things from a higher perspective, but is unable to move forward as if being held back by invisible hands of condemnation?

Sometimes it’s not invisible.  It shows: on their faces, in their eyes, disapproving looks, intentional disregard and rejection.

It shouldn’t be so.

The answer is…

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Not everyone has the ability to empathize, comfort, and overlook an offense. It’s okay because that’s between them and God.  But it’s a sad day when unbelievers love people better than believers do.  That’s a hard-core reality to accept at times.  Not all the time  Just sometimes.

The answer is…

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Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.  Colossians 3:12-14

May I do Thy Will always.

 

 

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Truth shouldn’t be avoided but it is.  The truth of the Bible is avoided by many believers and unbelievers alike.  Truth that opposes political correctness is also avoided.  So is the truth of someones past; their sins, lifestyle, bad choices…all are avoided in a room where everyone knows the truth but don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings or ruin the mood of the gathering.

People just kind of look sideways at each other, or roll their eyes, or turn away to hide their facial expression from the person to whom the elephant belongs.  Everyone wonders how long the elephant in the room can stay hidden when it is SO big and for some…SO juicy.

Most people leave the elephant alone out of care and courtesy, but occasionally a person might innocently “out” the elephant; like the little child in Hans Christian Andersen’s “The Emperor’s New Clothes” who let him know he didn’t actually have any clothes on at all!  More often, a conflict can cause people to draw attention to the elephant out of spite and ill will. They want to embarrass and try to hurt the elephant owner.  Here’s the deal:

Most elephant owners know they have elephants.  The elephant may not even belong to them but to someone close to them.  The real owner may be present or not, alive or not, but the person in the room is the one who is held accountable.  This is okay, because accountability is part of healing.  Believe me, the healing process is long and arduous and few other than the sociopath can avoid accountability of the heart, mind, and mouth.

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What is NOT okay is using your knowledge of another person’s elephant to maliciously try to hurt them or other people.  It matters not how big the elephant is, what color it is, how much it cost, where it came from, if there are other elephants in the closet, if they are males or females, or whatever. No one has the right to attack someone with their own elephant.

NEWSFLASH:  EVERYONE has an elephant.  Every single person on the face of this earth has at least one part of themselves that they wouldn’t want broadcast to the world.

 

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Having said that, I forgive the Elephant Thieves of the world who use them to attack others to get the focus off their own inadequacies.  I actually marvel their ability to stalk and patiently wait for the right moment to crack the whip and send the elephant stampeding.  The thing is, when a person has repented and is healed from the injuries previously incurred by the elephant, nothing you can do will harm them again.

 

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So…if you have an elephant in your room, acknowledge it, and repent.  That way you can look your elephant in the eye and see it for what it is:  A gift. God can take all things and turn them into something good.

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Prayer for Repentance

Heavenly Father, thank you for forgiving me. Thank you for waiting for me and helping me to acknowledge my sin.  Please help me to accept your forgiveness, mercy, and love without shame. Help me to leave that sin behind and live my life as a person who follows You. Thank you for your abounding love, Lord.   I pray in Jesus’s name, Amen.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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